About seven months ago I decided to meet with a friend of mine who is a personal trainer. I decided it was time to get physical again after so many years of relative inactivity.
Some of the exercises I did required dynamic balance. I learned something incredibly important that day: that somewhere along the line between my college days and now I had completely lost my sense of balance. I wobbled around like a drunken prom date. God, it was embarrassing.
The funny thing is I really couldn’t pinpoint a period of my life when my balance was degrading. It just seems I had it one time, then I lost it.
Since then, I’ve been taking steps to recover my sense of balance.
This is also relevant to my dating my wife.
I realized fairly early on in our original dating relationship that she was going to be the one. So I went all in. Nothing else mattered. And that attitude showed in every aspect of my life. Old friends, work, school, relationship with my parents, everything suffered. At that time, it took me quite a while to realize what I managed to do to myself. I slowly learned balance between my relationship with my bride to be and everything else in my life.
Now, you would think that I would’ve remembered this. You would also be wrong.
Recently, it took the inquiries of a few good friends wondering what the hell had become of me and the knowledge that I had lost a few clients from my business because I could not prioritize time with them to wake me up to the situation.
I’m still learning balance. I’m balancing my professional life, my social life with friends and extended family, and my new dating life with my bride. It’s a struggle, I don’t deny it. Just like before, my inclination is to go all in. To ignore everything in my life outside of my bride. But I understand now that that’s doing her a terrible disservice.
For my newfound dating life to succeed I must relearn to be in balance.